It’s a simple truth. When babies don’t sleep, parents don’t sleep. Not only are babies over tired and have difficulty sleeping; parents can become zombie-like while racking up huge sleep debt.
When we arrive at a family’s home for our home visit (a part of our Occupational Therapy Consultation process) one of the things we talk about is how the child’s sleeping problems are affecting the family as a whole.
Most parents are stoic and re-direct the conversation to their child and the benefits their child will gain from better sleep. All true.
But the real picture here is as follows: If your baby is sleeping better, chances are you are too. If you are sleeping better, the whole world around you is easier to cope with. Your thinking is clearer, your emotions more in check, your immune system is chugging (not limping) along and you actually have energy to get out to baby groups or the park. Take sleep away and parents can get into some serious sleep related danger such as:
Increased risk of post partum depression
Increased propensity to have a motor vehicle accident
For parents that are at work during this phase – their work safety may be compromised. If you are someone who relies on sharp cognition or precise motor control, consider addressing sleep now.
There are normal levels of daytime sleepiness; every parent feels some level of tiredness. But when it starts to affect your ability to perform daily tasks, it’s time to take a look at your sleep. And this often means addressing your baby’s sleep so you have the opportunity to sleep, too.
Sleep well parents. For everyone’s sake, do not minimize the importance of your sleep. Your ability to safely and effectively navigate your day to day activities is important. If you are not well, you can’t do your best to look after your baby.
It’s a common phenomenon. When babies have immature or poor sleep skills, they wake a lot and need a lot of help to resettle. This means you’re also waking a lot. Once sleep stabilizes for your baby, either as an organic process or with guidance and help, often parents are still waking up frequently or have difficulty going to sleep.
This is called insomnia and its happening because your body has been trained to wake up at certain times. And, if your bed has been a place of stress and anxiety over when your baby will wake and need you next, your sleep environment may not be supporting you to get the sleep you need.
Here are seven tips to get your sleep back on track. After all, if your baby is now sleeping well, shouldn’t you be sleeping well too?
Limit or cut out any caffeine (beverages and chocolate are big ones here) after noon. Caffeine’s half life is 4-6 hours so you may still be feeling the effects when it’s time for you to go to bed. If you’re opting for a warm drink before bed, ensure it’s got zero caffeine in it.
Limit your screen time before bed and don’t bring screens into bed with you. It’s tempting. WE get it. But staring at your tablet or phone before dozing off can really affect your ability to get to sleep. That blue light that comes out of your device signals your body to alert, not settle.
Set up your room for best sleep. If you’ve worked with us you know that we prescribe specific environmental changes for your baby to get his/her best sleep. This applies for you too. Think dark, quiet and cool. Consider covering up lights on electronics (phones, alarm clocks, etc) as this can even rouse you out of a sleepy state.
Be disciplined about going to bed and getting up at the same hour. While the getting up part may not be dictated by what you’d like, if your child wakes at 6am, work it backward from there and set your to-bed time. This is in your control. It is sometimes hard to get to bed at a decent hour if you want to squeeze in a bit of “grown up” time, but it’s worth it to get your body set and into a regular rhythm of wakefulness and sleepiness.
If you cannot fall asleep or wake in the night, try to get back to sleep but if this fails after about 10-15 minutes, get out of bed and do something enjoyable but a bit boring (or relaxing). Avoid screens and keep the environment dimmed and “night like”. Reading or knitting are good choices. Once you feel sleepy again, head back to bed. Staying in your bed and getting anxious about not returning or getting to sleep will not serve you well.
Get active. Get outside. Activity builds your natural drive to sleep. Daylight sets you up for your wake/sleep cycle. And it’s good for your mental health too.
Brain dump. If you find that you are going over to-do lists or have great ideas pop into your head as you are trying to wind down, write it out. Keep a note pad on your bedside table, write it down so you don’t worry about forgetting. Because we all know that pregnancy and baby brain don’t really go away!
Sleep well parents! The world is a much more pleasant place with a few good hours of sleep under your belt.
As Occupational Therapists, we consider many components of a child’s development when assessing their current sleep patterns and making a plan to move towards their sleep goals.
A significant piece of information about a child’s makeup is their sensory profile. This is the way in which each unique child processes the sensory information around (and inside) them. Processing is taking the sensory information in and the neurological system’s response to this information. Children can under- or over-respond to sensory information or can have an adaptive/positive response which serves them well in whatever occupation (activity) that they are engaging in.
Let’s look at an example. Nicky, a 2 week old infant has been awake for about 30 minutes. She is laying on her mom’s lap while her mom sings her “the wheels on the bus” while bouncing her along and moving her arms. Her mom is looking into her eyes. Nicky begins to avert her gaze and then starts to fuss. She’s got too much going on from a sensory perspective and her behaviours are telling us to take a step back, reduce the amount of inputs we are providing and then determine if she needs help to calm and re-focus.
Sensory overload is when a child’s thresholds have been exceeded and they are no longer able to adaptively and positively respond to sensory input. This effect can accumulate in a defined period or over the course of a day. A child who is in overload may have difficulty calming their bodies down and have very limited ability to cope with any more sensory inputs.
So, what does this have to do with sleep? In order for our children to settle into sleep, they must be able to calm their bodies. If they are in a state of sensory overload, they will likely have difficulty calming down independently and will require parent assistance and more time to settle down to sleep. They may also more have difficulty maintaining sleep.
What to do?
Provide different kinds of sensory stimulation at different times during the day. For example, swinging (vestibular), fast paced songs (auditory) and new foods (taste) are all inputs that may be alerting to the nervous system. Do these kind of things after your child is well rested, during an active time of the day. Deep hugs (Proprioception), dim lighting (visual), firm massage (tactile/touch) are calming inputs that can be put in place closer to sleeping time.
Watch your child’s cues for sensory overload. Children can go both ways; either escalating or shutting down. If you notice a sharp change in your child’s behaviour, step back and consider what you/the environment are asking him to process and see if the inputs need to be dialled down or if you need to infuse some calming inputs to balance the situation out.
Newborns and infants can easily become over stimulated and this can affect their ability to settle off to sleep. Understanding that the world around them can hold both the “just right” and “too much” stimulation is key to helping them regulate themselves during the day and to get quality sleep at night.
Karen Randall, BsC(OT) Registered Occupational Therapist
Here are some general tips for traveling with a baby and time zone changes.
- Expect that your baby’s sleep routine might be off for a few days. Nobody can instantly switch to a different time zone or even a different environment. Usually within a few days of being in a new environment, everything will have settled down and your little one will be comfortable in his new surroundings.
- Keep to the same routine during the day in terms of awake times and activities.
- Stick to your normal bedtime routine as much as possible. Do not feel completely obliged to stick with a rigid bedtime schedule, as when on holidays, it is not always easy to have an earlier bedtime. But regardless of the bedtime, try to stay consistent with the pre-bedtime routine so that your little one will know that bedtime is happening soon.
- If you are bringing your white noise machine to another country make sure you have a plug adapter or back up batteries.
- If you don't know how dark your sleep zone will be, bring some tape or clothes pegs with you so you can improvise to hang up something to darken the room. Also you could bring along a black garbage bag or two to cut and tape up on the windows as impromptu black-out blinds. Just be sure they are secure and your child can’t get at them!
- Use darkness, light and eating to help set his biological clock by trying to get close to the “local” time as possible. When it is sleep time, make the room very dark. Try dimming the lights and getting the environment low key in the evening. In the morning, make it bright and get outside for some daylight. Try to quickly adjust feeding times to “local time”, too.
- If you are bringing a pack n play/portable crib, make sure your little one is used to sleeping in it by having them "practice" for a few nights before you go so it's also a familiar part of the sleep routine & environment.
- Keep your little one's sleep environment as consistent as possible to what it is at home. Bring items that he is used to, such as his sleep sack, the lotion used for pre-bedtime massage, your white noise machine and even familiar smells (e.g. bring the same sheets from your house, same shampoo & soap).
- Try to get to your destination in time for a nap. Your little one will get a chance to try out the new sleep environment before bedtime. This also gives you a chance to make any changes to the sleep environment, if needed (i.e. darken the room, etc.)
- And finally, if everything falls apart in the sleep department while you are traveling, it can be fixed once you are home. Instead of stressing about routines and schedules that are off, just go with the flow and just enjoy getting special time with your family.
As a follow up to our blog post titled White Noise Machines and Auditory Development, we’ve been in contact with some experts in our own community to ask a few more questions to help parents with understanding their child’s needs related to auditory, speech and language development. Below is a Q&A session with Carla Monteleone, Speech-Language Pathologist and Fred Matta, Audiologist. Both clinicians specialize in pediatric services.
Question 1: From the article in Pediatrics published on March 3rd, we learned that white noise should not be played continuously (24/7) as it can affect speech and language development. If parents are using white noise at night as a means to improve their child’s sleep, what can they do during the day to help with speech and language development when the white noise is off?
The auditory system is constantly active, even during sleep, and although speech and language development is a process that takes place during waking hours, the fine tuning of the cochlea (organ of hearing) and the laying down of the auditory pathways occurs in response to sound stimulation. An infant’s auditory system requires exposure to a variety of complex sounds such as speech and music in order to develop the proper auditory pathways needed to be able to discriminate and recognize meaningful sounds. White noise may be a helpful way to lull or sustain an infant’s sleep state, but should be used sparingly because it does not vary in pitch and loudness across pitches.
Question 2: During the day, parents can help with their child’s speech and language development in many different ways including:
Talk to your child as you change, dress, feed and bathe your him/her. You can talk about what you are doing, what you are seeing.
Add gestures with words when you communicate (e.g. waving bye while saying bye, throwing kisses and making a kissing noise)
Respond to your child by imitating your child’s smiles, laughter, vocalizations, babbling sounds and/or word attempts
Sing songs especially action songs (e.g. itsy bitsy spider, pat-a-cake, the wheels on the bus)
Play people games (e.g. peek-a-boo, row row row your boat)
Read to your child. Children seem to enjoy lift the flap books and books with different texture. These add the opportunity for my language input.
The more your child sees non-verbal language (facial expressions, gestures) and hears verbal language (sounds and words), the more his/her language skills will develop.
Question 3: Can you give us a brief description of auditory development in a baby? For example are all the auditory pathways laid down before birth or do they continue to develop in the first year(s)?
The human cochlea (organ responsible for hearing) is fully formed and functional by the end of the second trimester (weeks 24 – 26 gestation). The period of time from the end of the second trimester to about 6 months of age is critical. This is when the fine-tuning of the cochlea or in other words, its ability to discriminate between different pitches of sound develops. This is why the recommendation for babies born with hearing loss is to provide them with suitable amplification before or by 6 months to maximize communication development and learning. The auditory pathway continues to develop over the next several years as the child begins to acquire speech and language. Chronic hearing loss in the early years can negatively affect normal auditory development and delay speech and language acquisition and learning.
Question 4: We talked about what to do to support speech and language development during the day, do you have any recommendations about protecting hearing?
Four ways to protect hearing include:
ONE: Learn to recognize sources that generate harmful noise and avoid or limit exposure when possible. Hearing damage caused by noise is primarily due to two things: A) Loudness of noise source and B) Exposure time. The louder the sound, the shorter the time before permanent hearing damage may occur. Some examples of potential sources of loud noises a child may be exposed to include: IPODs, car stereos, vacuum cleaners, power tools, lawn mower, TV, blender. Events such as weddings, concerts, movie theatres and sporting events are other examples.
TWO: Avoid competing noise sources in the same area (e.g. don’t try watching TV while vacuuming). You will simply end up turning the volume of the TV higher to overcome the noise of the vacuum cleaner and inevitably risk overexposure to loud noise.
THREE: Avoid purchasing very noisy toys. In Canada, The Hazardous Products Act prohibits the sale of toys that emit sound exceeding 100 decibels. However, even this level of sound can cause hearing damage in a child. Read the label on the toy to check its noise rating. If there is no noise rating, listen to the toy and if you have to raise your voice to be heard over the toy or if it sounds uncomfortably loud, don’t buy it.
FOUR: Wear hearing protection. When it’s not possible to avoid the potentially harmful noise source, hearing protection may be the next best alternative.
Question 5: From a sound and noise perspective, what are the ranges in loudness that a baby experiences in a day? For example, how loud are the sounds around the house and the community?
For a baby, the primary place in which he or she spends the majority of time is in the home. The sound environment will differ depending on the location, for example, a noisy main street versus a quiet cul de sac. Generally, sounds around the house can range from the hum of a refrigerator (around 50 decibel) to a food processor (80 – 90 decibel). Average conversational speech is at around 60 – 65 decibel). A vacuum cleaner, traffic noise and a dog barking are about 70 decibel. A hair dryer is around 90dB and inside a concert space can be as lout as 110dB.
Thank you to Fred and Carla for sharing some great insights and tips on speech, language and hearing development and ways to protect our little one’s ears.
Fred Matta, MClinAud, R.AUD., R.HIP is a Vancouver-based Audiologist involved in the diagnosis and management of childhood and adult hearing disorders as well as having a keen interest in hearing conservation and auditory processing disorders.
Carla Monteleone. MSLP RSLP SLP(C) is a Speech-Language Pathologist primarily working in the Lower Mainland. Carla primiarily works with preschool and school-aged children. Her interests are in the areas of children with apraxia of speech and fluency disorders.